Fears ของทั้งเก้าลักษณ์
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Ginger Lapis-Bogda เดือนมีนาคม 2015
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What stands in the way of our not feeling we are enough as
we are, the shadows to our sunshine, are core fears related to our Enneagram
types.
Acknowledging and facing these fears, then adding new
insights and behaviors help us step forward and upward.
Ones | the fear of imperfection
When the fear of imperfection, both in yourself and in
others, drives so much of your behavior, thoughts and feelings, how can you
ever really feel you are enough as your are? When you think things can always
be or do better and can always improve, how can you ever feel good enough just
as you are? What if you could believe this: No need to be concerned about being
perfect because I am fine and enough just as I am now. As I grow and develop,
I’ll still be fine and enough.
Twos | the fear of not being love-worthy
When the fear of not being love-worthy defines what you do,
how you feel, and what you think, how can you ever feel worthy enough of love?
When you believe you must consistently tune into others and provide what they
want and need to prove your own value, how will you ever tune into yourself to
take care of your own wants and needs so you feel you are enough? What if you
could believe this: I love myself deeply and truly and so I am enough just as I
am.
Threes | the fear of being useless
When the fear of being useless or idle makes you stay in
perpetual forward motion to prove your value to yourself and others based on
what you can do or accomplish, how can you ever rest and “be,” knowing you are
good enough just as you are? When you believe you cannot let down your guard or
mask and are only as good as your last performance or achievement, how can you
ever feel you are good enough? What if you could believe this: All I need to do
to feel I am enough is go inside myself and ask, then answer these questions:
What am I feeling right now? What do I really, deeply want? In addition to what
I do, who am I at a deeper level?
Fours | the fear of being hurt
When the fear of being hurt scares you so much that you
avoid almost all circumstances where you imagine you could get hurt because you
continuously question whether or not you are enough, how can you ever feel you
are intrinsically good enough? When you spend your energy trying to figure out
what makes you different from others (or special or deficient) such that you
often end up feeling not-good-enough, how can you ever trust that you are good
enough just as you are? What if you believe this: I am special just like
everyone else is special in his or her own way, and I am enough as I am!
Fives | the fear of ultimate depletion
When the fear of ultimate depletion and exhaustion keeps you
conserving what you have and restricting yourself mentally, physically and
emotionally, how can you feel like you are enough? In making yourself smaller
than you actually are and disconnecting from large parts of yourself
(particularly your heart and body), how can you feel as if you are enough? What
if you could believe this: There is so much more of me to access and use as a
resource that I am actually enough right now and I don’t even know it. I can allow
myself to fill all my potential space.
Sixes | the fear of catastrophe
When the fear that everything could go wrong and the doubt
that either you or others are up to the potential challenges that loom ahead,
how can you ever feel as if you are enough? When you go headlong into what
scares you or engage in some other risky behavior to prove you are not afraid
as a way to mask your fear, how can you ever truly believe and trust that you
are enough? What if you could believe this: I am richly resourced internally
and incredibly insightful, so there is no need to worry that I am not enough. I
am!
Sevens | the fear of not being whole or complete
When the fear of not being whole or complete or full as a
person drives your behavior and you substitute stimulation and positive
possibilities for the exploration of your inner journey, how can you ever feel
as if you are enough as your are? When you run away from anything that feels
limiting or from your deeper emotional responses to what occurs, how can you
feel as if you are enough? What if you could believe this: I am neither more
nor less than enough. All I need to do is to access my interior world as much
as I respond to stimulation from the outside to learn that I truly am enough
just as I am.
Eights | the fear of not being invincible
When the fear of not being strong, tough, big and invincible
propels you forward to take big action as a way to hide your vulnerability, how
can you ever feel as if you are enough? When you go into denial when you feel
sad and fearful by not sharing this with yourself and/or others, how can you
ever know that you really are enough, and this includes your softer sides? What
if you could believe this: I am enough when I allow myself to be in touch with
my soft, sweet, and tender inner world as well as my capable and “take charge”
exterior, for this combination is the source of true strength.
Nines | the fear of being invisible
When the fear of being visible and “showing up” or being
alert and conscious drives you to take a second-seat and not speak up when you
have something to say, how can you really feel that you are enough? When your
need to make sure others are being heard and being treated as if they are
enough or as if they matter, but you minimize yourself in the process, how can
you feel as if you are enough? What if you could believe this: I actually am
enough; I just need to show this more to myself and to others by stepping
forward energetically and behaviorally.
By : เบ๋ง
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